Helping Create a Positive School Attitude 10 Timely Tips for School Success

By Phillip Mountrose

 

   We all know how important it is for children to succeed in school. School is where they spend so much of their childhood; and the effects of school experiences can last a lifetime. Here, then, are some easy-to-use, practical tips that can make a difference for the kids in your life. Remember that any time a child experiences a positive shift in his or her school outlook, many other areas can also benefit.

1. Concentrate on what your child likes about school.  Likes can include recess, P.E., and other kids. Find ways to value whatever the child likes, even if it doesn''t fit into an academic category. Build on the positives.
2. Listen carefully to what your child says about school. Even if he or she views school negatively, you can be supportive by using your listening skills. Empathize and validate what your child says, even if you disagree. This promotes understanding and opens the door for further discussion.
3. Match your child''s posture.  If the child is sitting, you sit, too. If the child is standing, stand. Relating to the child''s body language will establish rapport.
4. Don''t try to fix it.  By handling the problem for your child, you keep him or her from learning how to handle it. Be a resource, and, at times a guide, not a savior.
5. Brainstorm with your child how school is important.  Let your child, with your help, come up with ways school can help a person in life. Let the child do as much talking as possible.
6. Help your child develop positive beliefs about school.  Instead of the limiting belief that "school is hard," suggest the positive belief, "I can improve"; or "I can get help."
7. Identify resources your child can use.  To help your child''s "I can get help" belief, explore people, books, materials, computers that will assist learning.
8. Share your experiences and outlook on school.  Offer examples of your successes and failures in school. Be candid without going into the lecturing mode. Relate your experience to your child''s, being sensitive to your child''s strengths and weaknesses.
9. Help your child schedule time for activities. An organizer notebook can help your youngster with school subjects and assignments. At home, set a homework and bedtime schedule so he or she has ample time to work, play, and rest.
10. Find ways to appreciate your child, regardless of school performance. Acknowledge your child''s self-worth and uniqueness. School competence is only one aspect of life. And as you see the whole child, more of your youngster''s competence can be valued, perhaps in unrecognized and subtle ways.

 source: http://www.kidsgrowth.com/resources/articledetail.cfm?id=833